For many people, friends for granted, something that should have and also very important. They are people with whom you surround yourself because you have common interests, just like and appreciate them. Nevertheless, all friendships need at least occasionally a little care, that is the one logs on now and again, found out had the other is a little bit and the news exchanges. This is especially important to the people that you do not often see, where friendships prevails in which a large geographical distance and a long silence cope easily. But why
I leave me here on the subject of friendship? Well yesterday I received after a long time, a sign of life from a friend who I once called my best friend.
On one side of pleasing the other is a huge disappointment, because more than one line, "Hi how are you" has not passed it. I have not replied to immediately, on the one hand I was a bit stressed out and had to be back on and the other, well, let's say a little irritated. I mean after 10 years of friendship and almost a year of silence since the move I might have expected something more. Despite all this, I replied, hoping to get some dialogue, perhaps there will be revived, but until today I have not heard anything. Shortly after, however, called me their "best" friend, who has been married for quite some time with my best friend has a 2-year-old child, and above all have the same problem as I did with my former best friend.
Well, we have so phoned about an hour and we both realized how desperate basically about this woman, in their indifference and coldness. They, too, is no longer ran to them, much to her husband, even simple conversations make enormously difficult.
For example, both are now even mothers who have only been a short time. They talk about the fact that the boy has his Dreimonatskolik , the wife of my best friend she has suggest that some baby milk have ingredients that promote these and they may even change the product and maybe a trial basis on one of these ingredients should not change. The reaction to this really is not bad meaning advice of an experienced mother of a young mother was the proverbial lack of interest that almost bordered on being offended. Even otherwise it is for them that knows them since childhood, almost impossible to find a topic where it does not react offended or understand the whole as unspoken accusation.
To make it short, we have been sick for an hour each other and noticed it as much as we no longer recognize our mutual friend. We both see them actually on a sort of heading towards an abyss, she and her husband increasingly socially isolated, not maintain friendships more and more and more fallen into a stupor phlegmatic. For my part I am wondering in particular what will become of the child? I assume that the two not mean they are bad parents, I can not judge me, but yes the parents are role models for their children and who want a certain pattern you will remember as a child going away as an adult.
I mean both have become very isolated, barely maintain friendships, both have no education and therefore work in jobs which they probably do not like necessarily.
In particular, the issues of training und Job sind besondere Dauerbrenner, es wird über die Arbeit gejammert, noch mehr weil man bei Beförderungen übergangen wird, aber kaum geht es aufs Thema fehlende Ausbildung, kommt der Einwand: Zeitverschwendung und das sei überbewertet. Da kann ich nur zwei Dinge dazu sagen: dann seid ihr selber schuld wenn ihr übergangen werdet und kriegt bitte mal den Allerwertesten hoch und macht noch was dagegen bevor es zu spät ist. Vor allem denke ich mir, schöne "Vorbilder" für ein Kind.
Ich könnte mich wirklich noch stundenlang auslassen, aber irgendwie stimmt mich das Ganze nur noch traurig. Denn eigentlich sind beide, sie und ihr Mann, helle Köpfe, die aber vollkommen in ihrer Lethargie versumpfen und more or less consciously suppress everything outside their four walls. At the funeral, but is also afraid, because if you locked out the world, takes refuge in imaginary worlds and closes with ever more serious problems of the eyes, I wonder where this will lead to. There to be an increase? I shudder even before the answer. Clearly it is their life, but I myself just as a friend to claim that they have a responsibility? I know when I touch the mountain it will crack, but somehow I can not as easily watch in silence. I can not and will not force his luck, but sometimes you have as a friend, the ugly and unpleasant things
address Oddly this whole situation, something positive, because I have again regular contact with my best friend and after the last evening together with his wife, who I've known even longer, we have decided now once more to look for our friendship and more in common to do.
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